The Chosen Ones.
Over the years, I've had several friendships with people that have lasted more than a decade. Relationships that are today, no more. The season is over, the reason has been fulfulled. I miss these people dearly. I guess I can say that we have lost track like I lost track with these girls many years ago. Maybe we'll get back on track again. Maybe not. But with death, there is new life....in this case, the death of those relationships breathed life into new relationships, and old relationships that needed a fresh start. A page in my life was turned.
I got my Husband....and My girls are back!!
We are raised to believe that Family are those who share the same blood when in fact Family goes far deeper than that. Lord knows that I have an extremely large extended family that I love dearly whether I see or speak to them often or not. They are my blood. Yet, often enough those who share the same blood are Not family at all. They are no different from strangers that just think they know you and your business because you are related. They don't know you at all!! They have no clue!! (They are like fans who act like they have the inside to the life of certain celebrities..lol Trying to creep your Facebook page, keeping update on your blog while talking about what they think they know about you behind your back) You may see them every so often at family functions, run into them at church or on the street. You may even allow them to stay with you for periods of time to help them when in need....but they don't KNOW you. These things don't make them know you either. Sharing blood often gives people a sense of entitlement that doesn't exist. It's like they have permission to abuse you and take advantage of you when they really don't. Just look at kids sometimes. Sharing blood doesn't make people love each other and act like family either. Sometimes they are just people that we tolerate and then there are those exceptions that we don't tolerate at all. lol But, if we are lucky, we are able to substitute those missing family members with others that compliment our ideal of who that relative should be. Ie. Father figures replacing the absent fathers, close friends that are more like sisters/brothers and elders that have been more like aunts and uncles in our lives. In many instances, these kinds of people add to what we already have instead of being surrogates of those lost to dysfunction and death. And let's give special mention to awesome friends. (I got a few of those. You know who you are! Thanks for being you. Look forward to many more years of friendship/sisterhood).
In the above photo...these girls are awesome friends, and I can call them not just friends but my sisters because they have been sisters to me for the time we've been together. I grew up an only child and my cousins were my sisters. When I ended up having biological sisters they weren't sisters either. They were raised apart from me and there was too much of an age difference I guess. In return, I was given the people that are in my life today....They love me and don't judge me, because they've taken the time to know me. They are there when and if I need them. We may not see or speak to each other all the time but I know just how to reach them and we are happy to hear from each other. When we do speak, it's like we haven't missed a beat. Almost like a soap opera where you can miss several episodes and for the most part, just jump right in and understand what's going on.